@HeneryH, that’s pretty much the opposite of “taking it down a notch”. I’m asking for civility and respect from everyone.
Bruce is a valued contributor to the openHAB forums who regularly helps users out of his own good will. He chose to respond to your initial request in a way that he thought would be helpful, and in a manner that is consistent with what other long-time community members do. You’re correct that you aren’t the first person to have received such a response (there are valid reasons the “ask a good question” post exists), which should reinforce that there was nothing personal about it.
I appreciate that you’re frustrated, but there’s no call for insults or biting sarcasm from anyone. One of the best things about the openHAB community is that we can have discussions and debates without decaying into the personal attacks and insults you find in other corners of the Internet. I’m not a moderator, but I’m protective of our collaborative and positive environment.
We all want you to have success with openHAB and become an important member of our community, but first impressions are everything. I don’t want you to feel like we’re chasing you away, or others to feel that you’re going to attack when you don’t like what you hear. Even over the Internet, relationships are still important.
If this is a hobby for you (as it is for me), then it should be fun! And around here, we have more fun helping people build than tearing people apart. I hope you’ll stick around and come to appreciate that as much as I do.